Clothes Over Bros

Haley James-Scott: Since when did we start letting boys dictate our happiness?

Brooke David: I was 9.

      On that same scene in CW's One Tree Hill, Haley helped Brooke saw the light and instead of making out, she should be making clothes(Brooke's own words). While trying not to be depressed over her break-up with Lucas, Brooke found her own happiness by starting her own clothing line. Later on the show, her clothing line Clothes Over Bros turned into a multimillion dollar company. The point is as much as boys make us all happy(and horny) we have to find something else that would bring us comfort and satisfaction.

 

      A friend of mine has this idea that the only thing missing from her life right now is a boy that will make her happy. Then she claims that what she needs is happiness, not a boyfriend. But that happiness comes from a boy. I told her that she needs to get a life not a boyfriend. I just couldn't understand that she's depending her happiness on boys. I've always seen her as this independent girl who's very strong and smart, that's why hearing her talk like that is very disappointing. I tried convincing her that there are more sources of happiness out there other than boys but she just won't listen.

      When you depend your happiness on boys or even just any person, you risk yourself to hurt and disappointment. I've been there and I'm sure almost all of the readers out there have experienced it at least once too. If you're looking for real happiness, you should start looking in yourself. Ask yourself what makes you happy. Not who but what. If you love doing something and it makes you happy at the same time then there's your answer. Mine is music and writing. At some point in your life, you have got to find that endeavour that you enjoy. Boys eventually follow. They're actually just a tiny part of the puzzle.

      Imagine if you have a boyfriend and he goes out of town or just busy. What would you do? Take your friends out of the picture. You can't just go with him and be the trophy girlfriend supporting him. You are not supposed to be needy or clingy or else you might even lose the boy. Remember that he fell in love with you before the relationship. Always remember who that person is. Don't lose yourself in the relationship. 

      Even though it may come off as being selfish, always think about yourself first. Make sure you can find happiness even when you're alone. When everything goes wrong, the only one you can fall back on is yourself. I just hope my friend realize this soon before the situation blows up on her face.